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Single is GREAT!
By Monika Banczerowska
Single is GREAT! That has been my strong belief and a truly blissful experience for years. I love every minute of it and hope for more. But I don’t want to strike you as very subjective and controversial without being able to support any of my beliefs with rational arguments and tangible facts. Okay, so let’s start the countdown!
The ever-increasing divorce rates provide clear evidence that not everything is well in the Nuptial Movement. The disturbing statistics seem to suggest that marriage and long-term relationships are not necessary the only route for women. Singledom turns out to be a viable alternative. Gone are the days when a singular female was categorized as a dejected, lonely and vulnerable spinster. The single revolution, resulting in the social acceptance of the status, has boosted lone she-wolves' self-esteem and confidence. The unattached female exercises absolute freedom to define her own life and choose her social role. Enjoying the power of her own company, the single woman has a unique opportunity to grow as an individual, to become herself and not merely the part of a couple. Thus, being single may really be sheer bliss.
Nowadays, single is becoming just another norm. The concept of the dull unattractive spinster or helpless old maid is being abandoned. Social pressure on women to marry or enter into long-term relationships is diminishing. The old time conviction that females have to choose matrimony to service the division of labor between men's paid employment and women's taken-for-granted drudgery1 is being put under the microscope. Female singledom and autonomy are becoming a socially accepted option to coupledom, and winning public respect. Singles are a force to be reckoned with, in and out of the workplace. The trend is best mirrored by the TV advertising which increasingly features strong, independent, well-groomed single women driving like Nigel Mansell or terminating the employment of a male subordinate.2 Therefore, unfettered by rigid conventions and emboldened by society's blessing, more and more females, instead of flinging themselves into a committed union, have a try at singledom.
And singledom means "dancing" to one's own rhythm. Togetherness tends to exert a gravitational pull.3 Once caught in its orbit, the committed lover falls entirely in with the partner's ritual. Coupledom makes the parties involved feel claustrophobic. Stresses and strains of wedded life force them to constantly compromise and surrender. But the unattached female is the one who calls the shots. She feels free to have her own agenda, opt for her pleasures and take advantage of all the social opportunities. Unconstrained by the partner's ideas of fun, her creative side is released from hold. Her plans are no longer shelved: the single female does what she wishes, when she wants. Another positive aspect of being single is the freedom to have genuine, no-strings friendship with men. This is not possible when a woman has a partner. No matter how trusting and solid the relationship, there is always a niggling undercurrent of suspicion if the female mixes with another male. Certainly, once accustomed to such autonomy, a female develops a craving for it.
But there is more to singledom than just not having to put up with somebody else's untidiness, boring relatives and dubious taste in music.4 Only in solitude can a woman discover the world she carries inside herself. The peace of being on her own helps a female to reach the inmost recesses of her mind and recognize her mental and emotional resources. And by realizing this potential, a unique and colorful kaleidoscope of feelings, needs qualities and deficiencies, a woman grows up as a person and becomes world in herself. Inspired by the findings she made in solitude, a female attempts to live within her capacity and come to terms with herself. All this paves the path to a firm, coherent and self-reliant personality. It appears that singledom assumes almost mystical qualities.
Apparently, being single is a true comfort. The reduction in social pressure on women to commit themselves to coupledom has brought about public approval and appreciation of the single status. The image of lone she-wolves has altered. Unattached females are no longer regarded vulnerable and sad, but independent and brimming with joy of life. Not oppressed by burdensome requirements of togetherness, women enjoy being their own bosses. Solitude feeds their souls and provides the healing balm for their minds and emotions. The important truth is that singles are not lonely. Not only are they entertained by their own companionship, but they also relish close links with male and female friends. And people in long-term relationships can be truly lonely. I want to make one more thing clear – I am not a feminist (I’m not even sure what it means in reality). I just enjoy all the benefits of singledom mentioned above. And I never feel lonely having a lot of friends both females and males.
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